Archive for July, 2008

And sometimes getting hit by a ton of bricks feels good…

I have a SLF named Danielle. She hit me like a ton of bricks…… she read that I was torn up by the last blog post and found a way for me to go see my father. I need to publicly (or rather to my 2 1/2 readers) say that I am forever in her debt. She is such a thoughtful generous person and I am damn lucky to have her in my life. She is there when I need to laugh/cry/vent and is always thinking of solutions to things that seem impossible. The fact that she is hot is only icing on the cake ;) Thank you Danielle.

This makes me think more about generosity. When I was thanking her like crazy she said to me “I know you don’t believe in karma but you do a lot for other people and you should get something back”….. later I related that to MNM and he put a new spin on “karma” for me. He said that he thinks karma is more like being in someone’s mind because you have done for them or for people. He thought that if you were the type of person that does for others people will be more inclined to do for you. I like this. This is a belief that I can get behind.

This weekend I also attended a lovely friend’s mother blessing. I was listening to a poem that one of the ladies was reading and watching the room (with an exception) cry. It made me think about why I wasn’t crying and why they would want me around. I am a pretty emotionally reserved person and feel a litte out of my element around highly emotional women. I want to study them. Don’t get me wrong…. I know how to behave myself. I won’t crack up at your funeral or anything like that… I just wonder why I don’t feel what you feel. Or rather HOW you feel. Maybe some of us were just born with non crying brains. Or it could be that we non emotionals are actually robots.

We also had our yearly photo shoot with the uber talented Amy. I am excited to see how they turned out. I love having my picture taken by her and I never enjoy having my picture taken. With some sort of elvin fairy magic she makes us look pretty…… probably photo shopping ;)

Goodbye

My father (Ray for those keeping score) just called to say that his mother passed. I am sad about this. You see, I never did get to meet her. I have this whole huge family that has been kept from me my whole life. Now another part of it will never be seen by me. I need to make this a priority. I do need to see where I come from.  More later as I process.